Monthly Archives: November 2013

November 11-Bachi’s birthday. My Grandmother, Bachi.

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November 11 is my grandmother’s birthday. She left us in 2001, but it doesn’t matter: each year on November 11 I think of her, and talk about her, as i did when she was alive, and every November 11, no matter what the year, it always is her birthday. It always is the day i give thanks for having had her, having been related to such an extraordinary person, and having been nurtured by her.

my grandfather's hobby was photography: here Bachi is his model

When I was little she would never accept my doing for her or buying her gifts, she was say: “please, keep your money, don’t get for me!”  After i left home, I wished i could have given her birthday parties and taken her places and in general treated her like the queen she deserved to be treated like, but she was firm in the grip of family life in Sacramento, where I and my wishes held no sway. The rest of the family had authority to take her places, do for her, even visit her, I could only do what they told me to. But what could i do, i had to put my faith in the fact that they loved her. But in the end, to be honest, I could not protect her when she was vulnerable as she could not protect me when i was small and vulnerable.

My biggest regret–no one’s fault, the fault of time’s ravages only– was that at age 90+, she was unable to travel to the UK to see her grand-daughter, Leah: far right in the picture with Bachi, graduate from Medical School. Speaking on the phone to Bachi, listening to her rich  New York accented voice, she was so happy, and proud, so proud. Her little Leah, a doctor.

when leah was 2 or 3, with her Bachi......

Leah was very close with her Bachi, as was my brother and I. I divorced when Leah was tiny, and i brought her often to Bachi, all the time often. At her house with Snooki, former hairdresser-poodle, white fluffy Snooki who was devoted to Bachi, and when Leah came along, devoted to her as well.  Here is the thing about Bachi that of all the wonderful things that people know/knew about her, I don’t think that many realized: she was so much fun. Such a sense of playfulness. Most people saw her as classy (she was), hard-working (no one worked harder), efficient (very, about everything). Energetic: don’t even ask.

But fun: so much fun to be with. When Leah was there Bachi would serve her signature dessert–coffee ice cream–in teeny tiny little thimble sized cups to her, and she would set them all out for little Leah to eat from them, little spoon, little tongue, big flavour and enjoyment. And then there were the checkbooks: Bachi worked for my uncle running the office of the plumbing business and insurance office, bringing home MASSIVE bags of paperwork every night. Huge shopping bags filled with paperwork. As she did her work, Leah wanted to do work too. Bachi shared her work with Leah: checkbooks. A big bag of checkbooks, and Bachi would toss them all over the floor, for Leah and her to crawl after…….it was like celebrating New Years Eve! Throw the checkbooks, crawl after them, giggle giggle giggle, laugh until you cry, then throw them again and crawl crawl crawl, laughing all the way…..and then there was “bang on the pots”: wooden spoons, big pots, hit hit hit until you couldn’t take it anymore.

For Leah, these games started when she was tiny: crawling baby  tiny. And continued until she was six or eight, around the time that Bachi broke her hip which facilitated two things:  her daughters “convinced” her (she was never convinced, always mourned her own home and feeding all who came) to sell her house and move into assisted living. And my mother gave away her beloved little poodle, Snooki, when Bachi was in the hospital. She blamed Snooki for Bachi’s fall. Snooki was blameless; her hip snapped because it was ready to anyhow. She loved Snooki and Leah loved Snooki. After my mother took him to the pound he wasn’t mentioned again for many years. Never with Bachi. When Leah grew up, and got her own poodle, we spoke of Snooki again. Bachi was gone by then.

For my brother, Bryan/Brian, it wasn’t tossing the checkbooks, nor was it banging on the pots and pans (though we did it on New Years Eve). It was the pawn shop. And sleeping over Saturday night when our parents went out. The sound of the grandfather clock ticking ticking ticking and bonging on the half hour once, on the hour with the number. It was spoonfuls of brandy/Port and honey when we were ill,  ice cream at Vic’s around the corner when we were well, and waking up to the smells of Sunday: matzo brie and bacon, chicken soup simmering for later, a big pot of something meaty, like chickens roasting with meatballs or stuffed cabbage or lamb braised with onions. And kasha, or potatoes, with alphabets for the soup.

It was about how if i woke up in the middle of the night i would see Bachi curled up on the bottom of my  bed, or on my brothers bed (later, on Leah’s bed), sleeping there with the love of being close to us. It was the closest to be cherished my brother or I ever felt in childhood.

Her name wasn’t always Bachi. Before Bachi, it was: Sophia Dubowsky. Before Dubowsky, she was Sophia Pockrass.

She got her name, Bachi, in the source of all things good to my brother and I: The pawn shop: (to be continued):

Meyer Lemon Panna Cotta

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Want a spoonful of luscious creamy Meyer Lemon panna cotta?

For dessert at our Paris Pop-up Supper Club, I made a Meyer Lemon Panna Cotta from lemons I toted back from a friend’s San Francisco tree. You can make this using ordinary lemons, but the Meyers have a sweet strong perfume which is heavenly, just heavenly. On the other hand, they are not very acidic, so for this reason I recommend cutting the fragrant Meyers with ordinary lemons, say: 2/3 Meyer and 1/3 ordinary lemon juice such as Eureka, the sort sold in any grocers.

Did I mention that this was LUSCIOUS? And if by some chance it doesn’t gel, I freeze it for ice cream. Just sayin’…….

While individual moulds are lovely and gel more quickly, they are a bit more fiddly; i like the ease of pouring it into one big bowl, and also the rustic presentation of one big shallow bowl or pan…..it reminds me of eating panna cotta in a mountaintop village outside of Torino. There the panna cotta was unflavoured, pure cream, as is traditional, and the trattoria that dished it up did so with the style of a mamma, or a grandmamma, in the kitchen…….urging me to try, to have a little more…..”people drive all the way from Torino to taste this panna cotta!”.

Meyer Lemon Panna Cotta

Serves 6 – 8

For the best balance of lemon flavour, i recommend using about 2/3 Meyer lemons and 1/3 regular lemons (Eureka or other acidic lemon), both for juice and zest; i find the powdered gelatin works best (ie most easiest) rather than the sheet gelatin as I am fairly sloppy about exactly measurements having made this all over the world without the necessary measuring cups. If by some chance it doesn’t seem to be firming up fast enough you can put it in the freezer for a small amount of time, say 30-40 minutes– then back into the fridge.

1 envelope unflavored gelatin

1 cup + 2 tablespoons superfine sugar

1 cup whipping cream

1 cup Meyer lemon juice (4-6 Meyer lemons)

2 tablespoons Meyer lemon peel minced (little chunks best)

1 cup nonfat Greek-style yogurt

Sprinkle gelatin over ½ cup cold water in a small bowl; let it soften for 5 minutes or until no dry spots remain.

Combine sugar and ½ cup of water in a saucepan; bring to a simmer and stir until sugar dissolves. Turn off the heat and add the gelatin mixture, stirring until gelatin dissolves. Add cream, lemon juice and lemon zest. Let cool slightly.

Put yogurt in a mixing bowl and whisk to loosen it up. Add the cream mixture, little by little, gently stirring after each addition to break up any lumps of yogurt before adding more cream. Do not over stir.

Pour mixture into a 5-cup bowl or mold or use individual ramekins. Tap the bowl on the counter to remove air bubbles. Cover and chill until set, 6 hours or overnight.

Photo credit: Jill Hamilton-Brice